Thursday, 26 February 2015

Friendship Story:Two Elves and Two Wishes

Two Elves and Two Wishes

There were once - a long, long, very long time ago; so long ago that not even day and night existed, and upon the Earth there lived only strange and magic creatures – two little elves who dreamed of jumping so high that they could manage to capture the clouds.

One day, the Great Sky Fairy saw them jumping again and again, in what seemed to be some useless but amusing game. They were trying to capture a few light clouds that were passing by at great speed. Their game so amused the Sky Fairy that she decided to grant each of the elves a wish.

-“What would you most like in life? Only one thing though, I can’t give you more,”

she asked of the elf who seemed the most restless.

The elf, excited at talking to one of the Great Fairies, and anxious to receive his wish, answered instantly.

-“To jump! I want to be able to jump right over the mountains! Above the clouds and the wind, and beyond the sun!”

-“Are you sure?” said the fairy “You don’t want anything else?”

The little elf, impatient, spoke of the years he had spent dreaming of having such an ability, and he assured the fairy that nothing could make him happier. The fairy, convinced, blew onto the elf and the elf instantly jumped so high that within moments he had soared through the clouds. Then he continued on towards the sun and, finally, they lost sight of him as he made his way to the stars.

Then the fairy turned to the other elf.

-“And you? What is it that you most want?”

The second elf, who was a bit quieter than the first elf, went into deep thought. He scratched his chin, pulled at his ears, looked up at the sky, looked at the ground, looked again at the sky, rubbed his eyes, put a hand on his ear, looked again at the ground, put on a sad face, and finally answered:

-“I want to be able to catch anything, above all so I can break my friend’s fall. Otherwise he’ll die when he comes plummeting back to Earth.”

At that moment they began hearing a noise, like a far off little cry, and it was coming closer and closer, becoming louder and louder. Then they could clearly make out the horrified face of the first elf, who was fully expecting to soon experience the biggest crash-landing in history. But then the fairy blew on the second elf, and this elf managed to catch his friend and save his life.

With his heart almost beating out of his chest, and his eyes filled with tears, the first elf regretted having been so impulsive, and he warmly embraced his good friend who – having thought a while before choosing his wish – had spent it on the first elf. Grateful for his generosity, the first jumping elf offered to swap the wishes, leaving himself with the useless one of catching elves, and giving his friend the ability to jump above the clouds. However, the second elf, who knew how much his friend had wanted his wish, decided they could share it by taking turns.

And so, one would jump while the other caught, and then they would swap; and both would be equally happy.

The fairy, moved by the elves’ friendship and companionship, presented each one with the most beautiful objects decorating the sky: the sun and the moon. From then on, the elf that was given the sun has jumped happily up every morning, his gift giving light to the World. And after a whole day he falls back to Earth, caught by his friend. And then the friend himself leaps up, and the night sky is filled with moonlight.

Wednesday, 25 February 2015

A Wonderful Story of Friendship & Values Do not value the THINGS you have in your life.. But value WHO you have in your life!

A story tells that two friends were walking
through the desert. During some
point of the journey they had an argument, and

one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt,

but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.
They kept on walking until they found an oasis,


where they decided to take a bath. The one who
had been slapped got stuck in the mire and
started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near


drowning, he wrote on a stone:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.
The friend who had slapped and
saved his best friend asked him,


“After I hurt you, you wrote in the
sand and now, you write on a stone,
why?” The other friend replied “When someone
hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds
of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone


does something good for us, we must engrave
it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND
AND T O CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,


a day to love them,
but then an entire life to forget them.
Send this phrase to the people you’ll never
forget. It’s a short message to let them
know that you’ll never forget them.

- MORAL -

Do not value the THINGS you have in your life..

But value WHO you have in your life!

Saturday, 21 February 2015

What is friendship?

The true meaning of friendship is when you consider the other person's well-being to be as valuable as your own.  If you feel this way about a person, you are truly their friend.

The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it.
By:-Hubert H. Humphrey
True friendship goes much further than superficially knowing people, or getting on well with lots of people.





Fiona Famous was a very popular girl at school. She was clever and fun, and got on well with everyone. It was no accident that Fiona was so popular. From an early age she had made an effort to be kind and friendly to everyone. She invited the whole class to her birthday party, and from time to time she would give presents to everybody. She was such a busy girl, with so many friends, that she hardly got a chance to spend time with individual friends. However, she felt very lucky; no other girl had so many friends at school and in the neighborhood.

But everything changed on National Friendship Day. On that day, at school, everyone was having a great time, drawing, painting, giving gifts. That day in class everyone had to make three presents to give to their three best friends. Fiona enjoyed the task of choosing three from amongst all the dozens of her friends.

However, when all the presents had been made and shared out among classmates, Fiona was the only one who had not received a present! She felt terrible, and spent hours crying. How could it be possible? So much effort to make so many friends, and in the end no one saw her as their best friend? Everyone came and tried to console her for a while. But each one only stayed for a short time before leaving.

This was exactly what Fiona had done so many times to others.
She realized that she was a good companion and acquaintance, but she had not been a true friend to anyone. She had tried not to argue with anyone, she had tried to pay attention to everyone, but now she had found out that that was not enough to create true friendship.

When she got home that night , created quite a puddle with her tears, and Fiona asked her mother where she could find true friends.
"Fiona, my dear," answered her mother, "you cannot buy friends with a smile or a few good words. If you really want true friends, you will have to give them real time and affection. For a true friend you must always be available, in good times and bad".

"But I want to be everybody's friend! I need to share my time among everyone!", Fiona protested.

"My dear, you're a lovely girl," said her mother, "but you can't be a close friend to everybody. There just isn't enough time to be available for everyone, so it's only possible to have a few true friends. The others will by playmates or acquaintances, but they won't be close friends".

Hearing this, Fiona decided to change her ways so that she could finally have some true friends. That night, in bed, she thought about what she could do to get them.
She thought about her mother. Her mother was always willing to help her, she put up with all of Fiona's dislikes and problems, she always forgave her, she loved her a great deal...
That was what makes friends!

And Fiona smiled from ear to ear, realizing that she already had the best friend anyone could ever want.

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

5 Questions To Ask Before You Let Go Of A Friendship.

If you're having trouble deciding whether your friend is a true friend, then your relationship must already be rocky. If you want to decide whether your friend is in the friendship for the right reasons, you have to pay attention to what they say, what they do, and how they make you feel. Just follow these easy tips and you'll know the truth.


1
See if your friend makes supportive comments. A true friend should make you feel needed, confident, and better about being alive. If your friend is always putting you down or making you feel worthless and never give you a kind word when you need it, then that friend is not true blue. If you want to know if your friend is a good friend, see if they make comments that encourage you.


  • See if your friend compliments you. If your friend gives you genuine compliments      from everything from your new outfit to your work ethic, then that friend is a good friend. If you can't remember the last time your friend complimented you, you may have a problem.
  • See if your friend encourages you. If your friend encourages you before a test, job interview, or even a first date, then that friend is a true friend. If your friend never gives you positive support, even when you need it, then you may have a problem.
  • See if your friend is your cheerleader. Though your friend doesn't have to always cheer you on, if your friend is a good friend, then they should be your fan and should always root for you to succeed, no matter what you do



See if your friend listens to you. If your friend is a true friend, then she/he should take the time to listen to what you have to say. In a true friendship, both people should be sharing their thoughts and getting feedback. If you find that your friend is always talking about his/her problems, but is bored or distracted as soon as it's time for you to share yours, then you may have a false friend on your hands. Here are some signs that your friend needs to brush up on his/her listening skills:
    • Notice how your friend reacts when you try to share something. If they nod, maintain eye contact, and support you, then they are a good friend. However, if they're looking around the room or checking their phone every time you talk for more than five minutes, then you have a bad friend on your hands.
    • Notice if your friend remembers what you say. A good friend will remember what you tell them, especially if it's something important. Your friend might have looked like they were listening when you told them something, but if they have no recollection of the time you told them you were thinking of applying to law school or telling your close friend that you have feelings for them, then they were probably never listening to begin with.
    • Notice who does most of the talking. In an ideal friendship, both friends should roughly share the same amount. If you feel like you are always the one listening to your friend's problems, then you're not getting your fair share of the friendship.
3
See if your friend communicates with you. Communication is key in any relationship, especially a friendship. If you and your friend are on the same page, then you should be open about your thoughts and feelings and maintain a level of honest and open dialogue. Here are some ways to see if you and your friend are communicating:
  • If you feel like you can easily share your thoughts and feelings with your friend. If your friend know what's going on in your life and you feel comfortable talking about it and being honest, you're in good hands. If you feel afraid to tell your friend how you feel because you're afraid they'll disapprove or be angry, then you're not communicating.
  • If you feel like you know what your friend is thinking and feeling, then your communication is strong. If your friend surprises you with how they're feeling, or shares their feelings with everyone but you, then you have a problem.
  • If you know how to have a mature talk when you're unhappy with how your friend acted, then you have strong communication. If you and your friend are comfortable with saying, "Hey, I was really hurt that you didn't come to my party the other night" and talking about it, then you have a strong friendship. No friendship is perfect and it's important to talk things out.
  • If you never say anything when your friend upsets you because you think your friend will overreact or not listen, then you have a problem.

4See if your friend loves to gossip a little too much. If your so-called friend is a big gossip, then it's likely that your friend is gossiping about you when you're not around. Though everyone loves some juicy gossip occasionally, if you feel like your friend is always gossiping about someone or talking trash, then chances are, your "friend" will do the same as soon as your back is turned. Here are some ways to know if your friend's gossiping is out of contro

  • If your friend talks about someone as soon as that person turns around, then the friend is probably not a good friend.
  • If your friend routinely talks about people they claim to be their closest friends, then they must be doing it about you.
  • If your friend is always saying negative things about everyone who isn't around, then this is a bad sign.
  • If you know that your friend has gossiped or trash talked about you, especially on multiple occasions, then your friend is not a true friend.
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Sunday, 9 October 2011

Friend-to-friend fundraising isn't new. How Does It Work? Tools You Already Have Tools to Get Started Quickly

Friend-to-friend fundraising isn't new. For years, many organizations have engaged supporters to raise funds on their behalf, including everyone from staff and volunteers to program participants and current donors. Traditionally these individual campaigns took the form of walk-a-thons and similar events where supporters enlist sponsors from their own networks of colleagues, friends and family. Informally, this kind of distributed fundraising is sometimes called “team,” “a-thon” or “peer-to-peer” fundraising.
But the types of events used for friend-to-friend fundraising have grown to include the use of online tools that let supporters participate in broader campaigns. Some facilitate the creation of individual online donation pages, while others provide “widgets” to place on personal web pages that allow them to speak directly to their own friends and family.
Is this kind of fundraising right for your organization? We asked six nonprofit technology experts for advice on how to decide, and for recommendations about tools that have worked well for their nonprofit colleagues. Pulling from their experience, we combined their advice below to provide information about a few tools that may work well for your nonprofit.

How Does It Work?

Most basic tools in this area let people create their own personalized fundraising pages related to your campaign. These individual pages provide opportunities for the supporters to use pictures and text to talk about their involvement in the cause—they contact people in their network, direct them to the page and ask them to donate.
Many tools also offer fundraising “widgets,” or “badges,” which usually take the form of a small box—often with a logo, text and donate button—that can be added to existing websites, blogs or social network profiles. While supporters may need to know a little HTML (the language of websites) to add a widget to a page, these widgets can be useful to reach out to existing communities, like the readers of a blog or Facebook friends.
Some of the more sophisticated tools also let organizational staff members oversee a campaign’s progress. A centralized web page may show the overall status of the campaign with tools to compare individual fundraisers’ results or easily download information about donors. Some even allow fundraisers to organize themselves into teams and let you track the progress of each.

Tools You Already Have

When thinking about tools to implement a friend-to-friend fundraising campaign at your organization, the best place to start looking for them is in-house. Your own constituent management or donor management system may work just fine. Many systems, including Convio, Donor Perfect Online, DonorPro, Artez Interactive and Blackbaud’s suite of tools, offer suitable functionality, though sometimes you may need to pay an additional fee. 
Using a system you already have offers the benefit of direct integration with your existing database, which can provide insight into your success and save you considerable time once the campaign is complete. These integrated options offer varying levels of functionality and features. Since not every system will offer exactly what you need to support your program, it is worth a little investigation to find the right one.

Tools to Get Started Quickly

If your current system doesn’t offer the friend-to-friend functionality you want, there’s a bunch of tools available in standalone format. Many let you experiment with distributed fundraising without making a significant investment—these are relatively easy to set up, with no big up-front costs, and are better for smaller campaigns or to get your toes wet if you are new to distributed fundraising.
Many are free, except for a percentage fee for each donation. Some offer upgrades to a more sophisticated set of features for a small cost, such as the ability to create campaign blogs and connections to social networking sites. This type of service generally hosts your campaign on the vendor’s website. It’s clear to donors that they’re donating on a site other than your own, but some tools offer the opportunity for customization.
Some also offer helpful features, like “thermometers” to visually display the campaign progress, lists showing the people who have already donated—and, often their comments—and the ability to upload contacts from other sources.
When evaluating these systems, make sure to look into how easy it will be to get your data into your current donor or constituent management system after your campaign is over. 

ChipIn is a widget supporters place on their own websites or Facebook profiles with a donate button and a thermometer showing overall campaign progress. It also lets users without websites create pages for free on ChipIn.com. There’s no cost for ChipIn itself, but organizations must set up a PayPal account to process donations and pay the associated PayPal transaction fees (less than 2.5 percent for nonprofit organizations).

WhatGives!? is also predominantly a widget-based tool that specializes in integration with Facebook, although it can be installed on your blog or website. It provides some level of customization of look and feel, and installs as a tab on your organization’s Facebook page. Supporters can donate via the tab, and install the widget on their own blogs and websites. WhatGives!? is free to set up, and integrates with PayPal to accept donations at a less-than 2.5 percent transaction fee for nonprofits.

This site encourages donors to replace traditional gifts with donations to a cause. The free package gives organizations a very basic home page where donors can make simple donations of any amount, and supporters can create fundraising pages to raise money for the organization. Changing The Present also offers a premium package for $100 per year. With the premium package, organizations can create pre-packaged gifts that show supporters what they can provide for a given price—for example, a $100 donation feeds a child in Somalia for one month—and lets them purchase those donations as gifts. The premium package also allows for more customization of the organization’s profile. Fees are 3 percent, plus $.30 per donation.

While the other tools listed here support a more general audience, Causes is specifically geared to let supporters who use Facebook fundraise from among their own Facebook friends. Facebook members establish a cause, select a beneficiary organization and solicit donations through their friends’ networks. They can also post Causes profiles on their Facebook page, including a new tab functionality that creates a more-seamless integration. In addition to general nonprofit pages, fundraisers can use the popular Birthday Wish feature to raise money in lieu of birthday gifts. Costs are 4.75 percent per donation, processed through Network for Good. Donors must be registered on Facebook in order to donate.

Razoo’s low costs and substantial functionality makes it a compelling option. It offers a friendly format that allows organizations to create a homepage and then develop multiple, separate fundraising projects that all link back to the central page. Supporters can fundraise on behalf of one of the pages created by the organization, or create their own personal project pages. Razoo profiles and fundraising projects are not highly customizable, but do allow both the organization and fundraisers to add images, videos and text. Interesting features include the ability to present an annotated donation amount menu and for the system to support recurring gifts. Razoo supports team fundraising projects for an increased per-transaction fee. Costs are 2.9 percent of each donation, processed in partnership with U.S. Bank, with an additional 2 percent fee for donations that come through the advanced team fundraising functionality. There’s a minimum donation amount of $10. 

First Giving provides easy-to-use tools that let supporters set up their own fundraising pages, and allows campaign administrators to track campaign progress across individual fundraisers. With the basic program (which is free except for transaction fees), the organization and individual pages are not very customization and won’t necessarily mesh with your organization’s graphic style. The premium package is $300 per year (with the same transaction fees) and offers more customization, the ability to link back to your organization’s homepage, and support for teams of fundraisers. FirstGiving also has some Facebook integration options, but unlike some of the other tools, does not have a built-in audience, so you’ll need to rely solely on your own supporters to spread the word. Transactions cost 7.5 percent (5 percent for the First Giving service fee and 2.5 percent for credit card processing.)
 and the brand new Causeless are other interesting options, which both provide similar functionality with their own spin. 

Tools for a More Robust and Integrated Strategy

Organizations that plan to run many campaigns may find these tools lacking. In particular, they don’t provide much centralized control, and it can be difficult to integrate data—for instance, records of your donors and gifts—with other systems. For nonprofits ready to invest a little more, there is another class of system that offers more feature-rich possibilities, and considerably more central control and reporting. 
Blackbaud Friends Asking Friends, part of Blackbaud Sphere Events 
This hosted solution allows organizations to create sophisticated, customized, distributed fundraising campaigns centered around individual fundraising pages. This application is particularly widely used to support online fundraising for “a-thon” events. Administration is centralized, and provides several easy-to-use templates for creating fundraising pages, but customizing pages can require substantial technical know-how. Blackbaud charges a setup fee of $1,400 plus a percentage of each donation.
This tool is also available as modules for a much larger suite of online communication and constituent management tools, and can be fully integrated with other fundraising strategies—in fact, this is true of most of the up-market tools in this area. Over time, they’ll better support sophisticated long-term campaigns, but they’ll take considerably more time to get up and running.
Remember, the donor management tool or integrated package you are already using may have a sophisticated option like the one offered by Blackbaud. Convio and Artez Interactive are also particularly well known in this area. 

Using Crowd-Sourced Options

Crowd-sourced fundraising tools often contain many of the same features as standard friend-to-friend tools, with one important difference—in addition to allowing nonprofits to reach out to current supporters and invite them to fundraise on the organization’s behalf, crowd-sourced tools offer access to a home-grown network of people interested in supporting compelling projects.
Individuals join the “crowd” using a specific tool, search the charities and other projects posted there, and make donations—frequently to organizations with which they have no established relationship. Often these tools cater to a specific mission area, like arts, education or progressive causes, and most rely on innovative funding models to encourage their community of donors to participate and rally around a cause.

Crowdrise supports the most general audience of the tools we cover here. It allows nonprofits to set up fundraising pages and invite their supporters to create personal pages and collect donations on their behalf, and offers the organization access to the large community of donors using the site. Nonprofits have the option of signing up for a free basic profile or a $299 per year featured profile. Featured profiles are promoted to the Crowdrise community, and offer such additional benefits as an increased number of Crowdrise points to entice community members to donate. Donations are managed through Network For Good, and include fees of 5 percent per donation plus a per transaction fee of $1 for donations under $25, and $2.50 for donations over $25.

Kickstarter is a crowd-sourcing tool used to find funding for arts, music, films and other creative projects. Users post projects along with their goals and a timeframe, and the community pledges money. Typically the projects will offer little in the way of rewards or thank-you gifts to donors, depending on how much is pledged, but they link quickly to Facebook and Twitter, making it easy to bring networks of friends and supporters to the existing and very active Kickstarter community. It’s important to note that Kickstarter works on an all-or-nothing basis. If your project doesn’t meet its goal by the deadline, you don’t get any money, and all of your donors are refunded in full, a policy designed to motivate nonprofits to fundraise and supporters to donate. While free to use, Kickstarter takes 5 percent of what you raise in fees if your project is successful.
IndieGoGo 
Similar to Kickstarter, IndieGoGo focuses on creative projects, but doesn’t follow the all-or-nothing model—nonprofits and other project owners keep money pledged even if the project fails to meet its goal. IndieGoGo charges a 4 percent fee if the project succeeds, which rises to 9 percent if it does not. 

Which Is Right For You?

Determining which tool is the right one for your organization requires a little planning and self-assessment. Ask yourself the following questions:
Have you done this before?Past experience with distributed fundraising is more important than the size of your organization or the resources (constituents and dollars) you can bring to the project. If you’re just starting out, choose a straightforward, easy-to-use tool—for example, fundraising pages and widgets. This is an iterative process, and every attempt yields new knowledge and skills and builds your network for the next round.
What are your fundraising goals?How many fundraisers and donors do you expect? How much money do you hope to raise? This information will help decide how much you’re willing to spend on a tool. Fees differ in structure. If you want to raise a lot of money through many small donations, you might choose a different pricing structure (higher base fee, lower transaction costs) than if you wanted to raise a smaller amount through a small group of donors (higher transaction cost, lower base fee). Make sure your solution is scaled to the campaign so you don’t pay a lot if you don’t get a lot.
Do you have the network?How many fundraisers do you need to make the campaign work, and how big are their networks? Effective and connected fundraisers, as messengers for your cause, are the most important component to distributed campaigns, as you’ll need to rely on their efforts and personal networks in order to succeed. You should have a number of “seed” fundraisers committed before launching the online campaign.
Are you reaching out to the people in your network where they are?Make sure you’ve correctly identified the tools your network is likely to use. If you’re using a tool that only works for registered Facebook users, ensure that your supporters are using it. On the other hand, if your supporters use Facebook much more than email, you could be missing a whole group of potential donors by not including it in your strategy.
Do you have the time?
Successful campaigns integrate basic tools with social networking and conventional communications, making them complex things to manage, but someone needs to keep the ball rolling. If you cannot commit the necessary time to a campaign it will be uphill the entire way. It is essential to make campaigns fun and easy to participate in. Create incentives and provide technical support and written templates to help your fundraisers gain traction and feel supported at all points in the process. Blog posts, progress updates and incentives all can help keep energy up. If you ask staff to fundraise, make sure you provide them time to set up individual pages and get involved.
Do you have the technology know-how?
Different tools require different levels of complexity, customization and involvement. If you’re just starting out, choose a solution that’s easy for participants and administrators to manage. If you expect a lot of participants, choose one that can integrate campaign data into your existing systems, but remember, more features can often mean more complexity.
Does the application have “critical mass” or reach?
Since you’re often essentially co-branding with the tool’s provider, the reputation and professionalism of your chosen tool are important. In addition, better-established vendors can typically provide better technical support to keep a campaign running smoothly.

Wrapping Up

Whatever your budget, you can likely find a tool that will allow you to try out an online distributed campaign. Advanced features and customization can be helpful, but inexpensive tools can be used creatively to good effect. Customization and the ability to manage the overall campaign may be more of an issue for larger campaigns where it’s important for your staff to see the progress of the entire campaign.
Whatever tools you use, your strategy is critical. Identify who you’re going to ask to participate, and how you’re going to ask them, and then help them keep their momentum. Distributed fundraising can be a useful technique for many different kinds of organizations, as long as you have a core nucleus of devoted followers who can help you spread the word about your organization—and you’re willing and able to invest the time to manage and support their fundraising efforts.
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